I am woman

“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start”.
Nido Qubein

Since the separation from my husband I have reflected often on who or what I am.

Having been with him some 40 years, having had 4 children together, and having worked and synergized together on so many worthwhile projects;  I had previously seen myself as half of a couple living in tandem; and in the roles I fulfilled as a wife and mother. With my husband gone and my children grown, I felt lost as to who or what I had now become.

It took me some time to see myself as an individual, rather than as half of a couple. In reaching that point, I came to the realisation that for many years – in the commitment I had made to my marriage – there had been for me an overwhelming feeling of responsibility for the happiness and needs of my husband. I was often caught up in seeing all life episodes through the lens of the effects on him. At times, I even I began living my life through his values, standards and priorities. These were not necessarily wrong. They were just not always the same as mine. As such, and with my quieter personality, I often went unseen and unheard with my real self melting away.

Now I have the opportunity to live by my own true self and to become the person I have always wanted to be.

Who is that person?

I thought in answering that question, I would begin with who I am right now that I cannot change. Then I can take a look at who I am inside me that I can change if I want to, or not if I do not want to. Then with the strength of that inner core, I may take myself on a wonderful journey of discovery as to who I would like to become.

This is who and what I am now that I cannot change. This is the point from which I will start the next part of my journey:

  • I am 58 years old.
  • I am an introvert.
  • I am a woman

I Am Woman
-Artist: Helen Reddy. -Words and Music by Helen Reddy and Ray Burton

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an’ pretend
’cause I’ve heard it all before
And I’ve been down there on the floor
No one’s ever gonna keep me down again

CHORUS
Oh yes I am wise
But it’s wisdom born of pain
Yes, I’ve paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman

You can bend but never break me
’cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
’cause you’ve deepened the conviction in my soul

CHORUS

I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin’ arms across the land
But I’m still an embryo
With a long long way to go
Until I make my brother understand

Oh yes I am wise
But it’s wisdom born of pain
Yes, I’ve paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
Oh, I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong

FADE
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman

22 thoughts on “I am woman

    • Thanks so much. I will follow this up over the next few weeks.
      I am glad that your are now ‘back on board’ (blogging) and I hope that you are travelling OK and coping with your grief. It must be a difficult time for you. You are a strong person with much courage and this will keep you going.
      Best wishes and smiles from me 🙂

  1. You are a beautiful soul, Elizabeth, and you are going to emerge from this period stronger and more vibrant, vital and renewed than you could ever have imagined. I can just feel it!! 🙂

  2. Bravo – it’s scary being out there on your own but also very rewarding. After 41 plus years of being a wife and mother I was suddenly on my own when my husband died. Kids had moved on and I had to find out who I was without them all. Now 14 years later I am happy with the person I have become but keep looking to grow. Love that song. Thanks for sharing and thanks for visiting my blog. 🙂

    • Thanks for your encouraging comment. My mother lost my father relatively young and I did not appreciate at the time what that meant … a woman on her own … it was not easy for her; and yet because of the cards she was dealt, she set the path of a good role model for me to follow. She has triumphed in her golden years, been steadily active in the community, writing books, and she has achieved SO much… whereas before my Dad died she lived in his shadow and did not have a real identity of her own. She definitely turned her situation around.

      Have a great weekend. 🙂

  3. This is a song from my childhood and your words strike a chord. I am pleased to have found your blog and I look forward to poking about a bit and reading a wee bit more. Thank you.

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