My attitudes # 9. Resilience. Bouncing back

“After climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb.” Nelson Mandela.

Thanks for pointing that out to me ๐Ÿ™‚

I thought there was supposed to be a rainbow at the top of the mountain? Is that another mountain to climb, or have I been thrown back down into the valley?

To recover from set-backs, one requires an attitude of resilience.

Resilience is more than keeping going, resilience is more than climbing a mountain, resilience is more than not quitting, resilience is more than recovering from set-backs, resilience is bouncing back.

I thought of all the ‘mountains’ I had climbed in life and have felt many times that I was over climbing mountains. I was sick of being thrown back down into the valley. I wrote about this in a very early post “No More Mountains” when I was faced with what seemed insurmountable obstacles and turmoil. In that post I resolved that instead of climbing mountains I would go along tackling things one step at a time. I would find an easier path, around the mountains. Looking back now, 18 months into the drama of this separation, I realise that I have already climbed some of those mountains that at the time seemed unconquerable; the mountain of the emotional turmoil of the separation (most of the time), the mountain of the abhorrence of the divorce process (almost), and the mountain of learning to live my life all by myself. Only one of the four mountains I wrote down that day remained – getting my finances as a single person back on track. Step by step, mountain by mountain, I am gradually getting there.

This is a list I have compiled as to the character traits that I have read help you bounce back after set-backs:

  • Positive outlook
  • Resistance in the face of failure
  • Firm moral convictions and code of ethics
  • Ability to plan ahead and problem solve
  • Ability to see adversities as challenges to overcome rather than obstacles
  • Belief that one’s own effort can change things
  • A lifetime goal or interest in developing a talent

Like the lamb in this video clip sent to me by a fellow blogger;

Yes, I think my bounce will come.

“More and more I have come to admire resilience.
Not the simple resilience of a pillow, where
foam returns over and over to the same shape,
but the sinuous tenacity of a tree,
finding the light newly blocked on one side,
it turns to another.”
Jane Hirschfield.

26 thoughts on “My attitudes # 9. Resilience. Bouncing back

  1. I so much admire resilience in people. Not only are they survivors but they also tend towards calmness and considered action rather than blame of others for the state of their lives.

    • Yes, the “calmness and considered action” is something I have always striven for. Something that often seems a million miles away in the heat of a crisis… getting closer.

      Thanks as always for your belief in my stated aims. I am grateful for your continued support.

  2. I just spent some time reading through your past blog posts. Wow, you have had to face a lot. I really admire your positive attitude and resilience. You inspire me. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. I just spent some time reading through many of your blog posts. Wow, you have been through a lot. I admire your positive attitude and resilience. You inspire me! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Thanks.
      Just to let you know I had a bit of an extra look around your blog and found one of your other blogs.
      Absolutely LOVED the diagram of the circles with the inner core marching through committed action towards your vision. it inspired me.

  4. For the record, I love Ian’s response/observation above.
    You’ve captured the struggle well. It is a frustrating realization to put it together that change is the norm and adversity is the name of the game we are playing. I definitely relate to the feeling of being bombarded too much, yet another challenge, again and again. Back then, it felt like being pummeled in the boxing ring. Nowadays, not so much. I definitely find myself getting up quicker when knocked down. Sure, I let out a cry every so often, wince with the pain, but it’s more of a 3-count vs the TKO, and I’m back up again, ready and aware.

    • Thanks for your reply. I am continually comforted by the support of others who have ‘been there’ telling their stories, and to know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

      I like the analogy of the boxing ring, a 3-count vs the TKO.
      That is a great way of looking at the ‘bouncing’. We can’t avoid being knocked down, but we can always get up again.

      thanks again, and have a great weekend.
      ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Hiya,
    Just a wee clue for you which someone passed on to me. With your vimeo video, to have the thumbnail of the video appear, in your post as you’re writing it, you do, ALL ON ONE LINE but I’m separating it so you can see it broken down:

    [
    vimeo (do a space)
    http://vimeo
    .com/
    45732240
    ]

    So all that together shows as

    Kindest regards
    ๐Ÿ™‚ N’n.

    • Hi thanks for the tip. I tried doing this, and it worked. However, for that particular video, there was not permission to showing that format so I have taken it back to the original. I will keep in mind for others though. thanks again.

      • ๐Ÿ™‚ Cheers. I used wonder ‘how the hell did they get the video to show, & not just a link?’ It’s good to know!

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