I have an in built urge to help people.
To assist people in need.
To enable people to do their best.
As a child
I was the one who stayed inside with my friend when she was laid up with a leg injury.
I was the one who walked behind with the disabled girl, when the others charged ahead.
I helped others with their school assignments.
As a wife and mother
I put my heart and soul into helping my children do their very best.
I supported my husband in many projects and in his work.
As a friend and co-worker
I was the supporter for friends and neighbors with their own children.
I became the leader in business, helping others reach their potential.
I really really miss having my children around, and of them needing me.
I miss the nurturing role that I had in my former career.
I miss being needed.
Still, I am proud of who I am and what I have achieved.
There is another, less positive side to this trait.
I am Mrs Fixit
In my marriage, my husband was always the one with the grand idea and then we would work and accomplish things together and have fun along the way. Then there would be, for him, the next exciting project to begin and build on. Meanwhile, the original project still needed maintaining or “fixing” whether that be maintenance in an investment property, or appliances that required repair, or bills and loans that still needed paying. And sometimes when things did not quite work out, it was me who worked a way out of our predicament.
That was my job. Fixing.
Picking up the broom and sweeping up the mess.
Fixing is draining.
There is no glamorous reward or a sense of achievement and accomplishment.
No accolades or thank-yous.
Do I want to continue to be Mrs Fix-it?
Do I need this?
Or do I want and need a different role going forward, one that brings out my former nurturing instincts and makes me feel good about myself?
That is the question I ask myself today.
That is the big question I am asking myself today for my life of tomorrows.
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