Foundations of comfort – I am significant

 

ID-10045481. digitalartAbout eighteen months ago I was in a phase of playing inspirational songs to make me feel better and my favourite one at the time was ‘I am woman’ by Helen Reddy. I happened to mention it to my accountant who laughed telling me that as I was an intelligent, capable, resourceful woman. Therefore he could not understand why I would need to play inspirational songs to make me feel better.

It is impossible to describe the crushing effect the ending of my marriage had on my self-esteem. Whatever self-respect and self-confidence I had before was completely shattered in a single moment. It was not only that my soul-mate and companion of forty years had chosen someone else over me which crushed my self-worth as a person and who I felt I was. The action of him walking away from our life together made me feel that I did not matter and everything I had ever done for him and with him was of no significance. Everything I had poured my heart and soul into was of no worth. If it was worthwhile, why would he walk away from it?

For two years I had let the message given to me by his actions and words become the voices in my head telling me that I did not matter, telling me that what I did was of no significance. I now know that those negative voices are not my voices and what those voices were saying was not the truth.

This is the truth:

  • I am significant because I have raised four magnificent children who admire andΒ  adore me.
  • I am significant because I am fair and kind; and always show respect, empathetic listening and understanding to others.
  • I am significant because I stand up for my beliefs.
  • I am significant because I have provided employment and valuable services to the community for 35 years.
  • I am significant because I have journeyed my divorce with grace and dignity.
  • I am significant because I have been the one entrusted with taking the property settlement to its conclusion and I have done that with integrity and fairness.
  • I am significant because I have fully embraced aloneness.
  • I am significant and an individual person entitled to my own thoughts, beliefs, feelings and needs.
  • I am significant because I have offered inspiration and support to blogging friends.
  • I am significant because I have helped others through personal issues.
  • I am significant because I encourage others to be their best selves.

To get to this point of really believing that I am significant, I have been fortunate to have had loved ones, friends, blogging followers; and professional advisors who have kept reminding me of how significant I truly am over and over and over again.

Thank you to all who have had a firm belief in me and my abilities and have helped raise me up to this point of feeling immense pride in myself and my significance. In turn you may all feel proud of your own significance in helping this individual turn a corner.

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32 thoughts on “Foundations of comfort – I am significant

  1. Elizabeth, one day I hope you will see your magnificence! You are more than significant.
    …. This is a really good powerful start though πŸ™‚
    Breathe it all in and embrace the Elizabeth who is beginning to shine in her own light!
    Val

  2. Elizabeth, I am so happy to have been along for this ride with you. You are a source of inspiration and often my barometer to judge if I’ve written anything worth reading. It has been my pleasure to watch you move into this next phase. I can’t wait to see what incredible things are ahead for you.
    Maureen

  3. Loved the post. Great to see you starting to believe in the power of ” I am….” About a year and a half back, I had dwelled and written a post titled “I AM….” and would welcome you to see it here.

    http://esgeemusings.com/2012/01/26/i-am/

    Coming back to the earlier reason behind your loss of ‘self esteem’, I would invite you to think back to what happened. As your ex-husband left you, was his action really about you… or about him? As you answer this question you might gain more insights.

    Cheers

    Shakti

    • I have read you post and thought it insightful.
      Yes, you are correct, my husband’s actions were all about him and nothing soever to do with me. In some respects that makes me feel worse than useless; in other respects liberated.
      “The truth shall set me free”.

  4. I love this. You are significant – and awesome. No one can take these things away from you. You are a survivor. And you help others. As simple as that. And I love that you started with your children.

  5. I am so glad that the accountant, in a way, was ‘validating your worth!’ I like this part of your post. It is not often that you get that positive feedback from a man! Sometimes, they are afraid of expressing their appreciation out loud! I am always into good music and like to feel uplifted by different styles. Different periods of my life, I have definitely needed the “I Am Woman” message! I I am so glad you are feeling stronger and also, significant. This was a great list of ways you feel this and is like affirmations, you could post it on your bathroom mirror or your door, as you leave to head out for your day! I have some things on my refrigerator that make me feel happy and significant, too! Take it easy and enjoy your weekend!

  6. Excellent post, Elizabeth. In addition to all your reasons for feeling significant, the truth is that you still have MANY more. Trust those quiet revelations to whisper in your ear and reach your heart. Have a wonderful weekend!

  7. Elizabeth, you are most definitely significant and your new life is just beginning to shine in ways you couldn’t have even imagined. Trust that you are exactly where you should be at this very moment and please know that YOU ARE NEVER ALONE. Namaste.

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